Getting The Love You Want, From The Inside Out

First, recognize that you already have tons of power ready to be used to achieve your dream of a perfect mate. It does not matter whether you are competing with others for the same person, or whether you are ugly looking, unattractive, shy or lack of charisma. You only have to take this tremendous power that you already possess and move it in a new direction. It is already there stored up within you, but is being scattered and misdirected. What we are going to do is focus it and aim it. Then watch miracles happen!

Try to get in touch with where your power is heading right now. It is entirely possible that you have made decisions in your recent or not so recent past that are now counterproductive to your finding a wonderful mate. I have encountered people who keep telling me:

"I will never have a truly happy relationship." "I am unattractive, other people do not want to be close to me." "I always attract the wrong person." "I am not sociable enough. People do not even want to be friends with me." "I've been hurt badly. I think I will not love again." "I cannot talk well. People do not find me interesting." If you look closely enough, you'll notice that all of the people mentioned above hold some kind of beliefs within and about themselves. They feel that they are unattractive, too fat, too thin, too old, too ugly and uninteresting and thus they are unable to attract or capture the heart of a person whom they like. Some admit that they are very shy, unsociable, and do not like to be part of a big group of people, and thus without some sort of charisma, they feel they will never be able to find and attract a wonderful partner for themselves.

Then there are others who have been in bad relationships or marriages before and are hurt so badly that they begin to believe that they will never have a truly happy relationship, and so will never attract a right and perfect mate again.

There is one basic truth of the law of the Universe which you have to remember, and that is:

Believe, and you'll see

Many of us are being taught that 'seeing is believing.' It sounds logical, isn't it? You have to see some kind of concrete proof with your eyes first, only then will you believe that it is a fact. This is why we are always feeling that we are under the control of our outer circumstances, external events or other people. We feel that things and events are not within our control. There is nothing we can do about it.

Now, I'm going to tell you that it should be the other way round! Think about it. Take as long as you want to realize this truth - Believe, and you'll see.

You don't see to believe. You believe first, and then you'll see it all happening. This is how the events, circumstances and things in our daily lives happen. A lot of events or circumstances in our daily lives do not happen just by chance, by accident, by fate or by destiny. We create them, whether consciously or unconsciously. We are the creators of our own destiny. There are no accidents.

Thus, the very first step to finding and attracting a perfect partner, or even to get your first date is to take responsibility for your own power, which every one of us possesses. If you are lonely right now, and wondering why you could never find or attract a person who will truly love you, realize this: things are the way they are because that is how we insist they must be. This is one of the immortal truths of love and relationship.

Things are the way they are right now for you because you have, whether consciously or unconsciously, made some sort of emotional decisions in your recent or not so recent past, that are now counterproductive to your finding a good and wonderful partner.

You may have told yourself:

"There is a big group of people over there. Should I join in their conversation? Maybe I shouldn't, I will made a fool of myself (You are shy! You don't feel secure.)" "The person that I like is over there. Should I go over and strike up a conversation with him? But, there are other prettier women near him. He wouldn't bother to notice me." (You tell yourself you are unattractive, you stop yourself approaching the person you like). Believe, and you'll see. If you see yourself in the examples given above, now you should have a better understanding why it seems you have so much difficulties finding and attracting a wonderful mate. The answer is right here, within you. Search the answer within your-self first, do not look elsewhere.

If you believe you are too fat or too thin, and that you will never be able to attract a perfect mate, then, your 'wish' is going to materialize. Believe, and you'll see.

If you believe you will never attract a responsible and loving mate ever again (because you have been hurt badly in previous relationships or marriages), then you will never attract a wonderful mate. Period. Believe, and you'll see.

If you believe you will never capture the heart of the person you like (because you are too shy to approach him/her, or that you believe there are better and more attractive woman or man for him/her who are far better than you, or that you have no confidence of winning that person's heart), then, you'll never win the heart of this person whom you like and love so much. Believe, and you'll see.

When I see someone repeatedly trying to make something happen and being unsuccessful I always look at the person to find out why they are stopping themselves. The fact is, we all consciously (or unconsciously) choose our current circumstances or situations in our relationships. Now, ask yourself: Why are you stopping yourself?

Now, don't get me wrong. It is perfectly okay if you feel, say, you are a shy person. There is nothing wrong with you feeling this way in the first place. This could be due to a lot of factors and reasons such as your upbringing, the type of education you have received, the environment and culture you are being exposed to from a young age, or it could very likely be due to your habitual way of thinking, attitude, character and so on and so forth.

The first step in this magical process of finding, attracting and capturing the heart of the person you like, is to get in touch with your personal power right now. Take a good look at the way your life is in the relationship and marriage area and realize that it is exactly as you want it to be.

I know it is going to sound a little ironical, since you are probably reading this resource hoping to find out how to make things better in this area, the secrets of making another person like you, or the secrets of getting your first date or drawing a true love to you somewhat magically (if you are not yet eyeing someone you know).

For me to say that it is already just the way you want it is somewhat of a paradox. However, this is really the starting point and the foundation of having personal power in your relationships.

Much of my work with my clients is to help them get back in touch with their personal power, by showing them they are the ones who make their relationship choices. If they still could not find or attract a true love, or that they are still unable to connect with a person they like, it is NOT because other people have not considered them, are rejecting them, or that they are destined to be lonely all their life (many of them believe so!), but that they themselves make such relationship choices! Once they see this clearly, once they understand what is going on, a certain realization and freedom emerges in them. Having regained their power, they are now ready to use it to create something different in their love lives.

This awareness, that of acknowledging our power, and seeing how and why we have made all of our current choices in relationships and other areas, is the magic elixir that opens up a new world of possibilities.

108 Easy Ways to find, attract & keep a True Love!

- Do you want to remove the Barriers that are preventing you from meeting the right person?

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- Do you desire to be loved - both emotionally and physically?

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Should You Romance a Woman on Dates?

Here's a commonly heard ...

Boy meets girl.Boy gets girl's number.Boy calls up girl and sets up the first date.

Boy shows up on girl's doorstep with flowers or a gift, brings her to an expensive

restaurant and talks about how he REALLY likes her.Girl quickly ends the date and

doesn't answer any of his phone calls later.

This is familiar because it's something that almost every guy must have faced at

some point in his dating life. The truth is we've all been PROGRAMMED to behave this

way. In a regualar romantic movie, the male character wins over a girl's affection

by confessing his undying love. And if you've ever watched one of these movies with

a girl, you'll notice how emotional and choked up she gets.

So naturally, it seems logical to think that romantic gestures on your first couple

of dates are the best way to attract her interest.

The question is- Should you be romantic when you first meet a woman?

Well I would say NO. And here's the reason why...

Men and women approach dating in different ways. Guys pretty much know we like a

girl before the date begins. If she's attractive and seems interesting, we're already

hooked. For us, the first couple of dates is the time where we're obsessed with

proving ourselves (and maybe get a little action)! One way that's been proven

to work is to do the "romantic" gestures we see "working" in Hollywood movies.

Whereas women, view dating as a way to "qualify" a guy. Sure she might be

interested, but in truth subconsciously she is looking for the specific qualities

which can at times ELIMINATE a guy as a potential dating partner.ONE wrong move

and you'll get the "Let's Just Be Friends" speech!

I would suggest, be a little careful with the romantic gestures. U might end up

showing that you really don't care about who she is as a person. Instead you're

giving away your power and showing that you're already into her before she's even

proven herself.

A woman wants to feel like she's EARNED a guy's interest. And not solely because of

her looks. While she's still trying to figure him out, he's already demonstrating his

interest.

So what do women want from men?

The answer is SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

Sexual attraction is that feeling she gets when she's with a guy who resonates in the

EMOTIONAL side of her mind.This is a feeling you can't buying her with gifts or by

being romantic. These actions only speak to the LOGICAL side of her mind.To create

sexual attraction, you have to show the qualities of a man who makes a woman

feel excited and stimulated like...

• Challenging her actions and statements

• Using humor to tease and banter

• Showing a spontaneous attitude

• Demonstrating a high level of confidence

• Being trustworthy with a little bit of danger

• Showing independence in your life

• Making her feel important

The last quality can be a little confusing.Most guys act romantic because they

THINK they're trying to make her feel important. This is wrong because at first she's

done nothing to prove herself.

Having said that, while you should never show up on your first couple of dates with

an armful of roses, you should show your interest IF she's passing your tests and

meets your standards.

In other words, if you're having a great time and she meets the qualities that you're

looking for, then you can start showing that she's earning your approval.

Finally, one very important thing...

I am sure you also want to be a gentleman by- Opening the door, leading her with

your body language, and paying for the first date. But at the same time, you want

to also tease and create the sexual tension that's necessary for attraction.

I would suggest that ditch the romantic gestures on your first couple of dates, act

like a gentleman and use this time to find out if she's right for you!

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Relationship Quotes for Your Enjoyment

Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it. In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note:

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
-Oprah Winfrey

"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." -Anthony Robbins

"Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same." -Flavia Weedn

"The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifted their relationship with time." – Caroline Myss

"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." – Mark Twain

"Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with" ~ Gillian Anderson

"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." – Aristotle

"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." – Helen Keller

"Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl - no superior alternative has yet been found." – Winston Churchill

"It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations." – Kahlin Gibran

"To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person." – Eric Fromm

"Man is a knot into which relationships are tied." ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

"You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete." ~ Keith Sweat

"Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others." ~ Stephen R. Covey

"Love doesn't just sit there like a stone; it has to be made - like bread, remade all the time, made new." – Ursula LeGuin

"Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it's really no fun lying to 'em anymore." -Norm from Cheers

There’s a broad collection of relationship quotes for you.

How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back in Five Steps

If you really want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, there are a number of steps that you can follow to have more success than if you just wing it and hope for the best. Breakups happen, but they do not necessarily have to be forever. Here are five steps that will allow you to subtlety let your ex girlfriend know that you're still interested in being a fixture in her life, so that you can potentially rekindle things in the right away.

5 - If you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, start by reaching out and touching her. Playing too hard to get is not the best way to approach this, though communication should be scaled back. Reach out to her and let her know subtlety that you are still interested in being a part of her life.

4 - Drop her an e-mail to keep in touch. If you do not find casual, easy going methods of communication with your ex, you will never be able to get her back. Staying in touch is absolutely vital, but keep it to casual messages like "Hey, what's up?" rather than overwhelming her inbox with love poetry.

3 - If you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, stay away from other girls. Sure, she may be understanding enough to let it slide if you begin to peruse other "prospects", but if you want to get your girlfriend back, stay away from other ladies.

2 - Remember the important things. Part of learning how to get your ex girlfriend back means treating your girl like a princess. One of the easiest ways to do this is to show her that you care by remembering the most important anniversaries and dates in her life. Send her a card on her birthday, and let her know you're thinking about her in a harmless and positive way.

1 - Call and text, but use discretion when reaching out to her. You should not be afraid to send your ex girlfriend a text message, or drop her a line here and there. Uncertainty is something that should be avoided in life and love, so call her up and let her know what's going on so that she knows where you are and what you're doing, and doesn't have to imagine that you're out having fun without her, or with another woman. Let her know you care, and that you still think about her. If she knows she's still in your thoughts so frequently, it will contribute heavily to how quickly she will want to rekindle things with you.

There is no exact process or science to the process of learning how to get your ex girlfriend back, but there are some pretty clear cut suggestions out there that will steer you in the right direction. Obviously maintaining contact and communication is absolutely vital to the rekindling process, but do not over do it, otherwise you may scare her away.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren't my original ideas. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called
"The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.

How to Create Your Own Relationship Reality by Cucan Pemo

Over the past few years, I’ve been teaching people some of my most prized and valuable relationship strategies and ideas online. Most of what I’ve been teaching are nothing new and the principles, strategies and tips which I’ve learnt and shared with my friends, associates and readers come from various sources and resources which I’ve been researching and studied for almost 3 years.



One of the main reasons why my teachings, materials and tips work for many people is I’ve found ways to apply these time tested principles, “formulas” and tips in the real world. This is one skill I’ve been emphasizing in all my works and that is, you have to make the knowledge you have gained your OWN! Other people can share with you or teach you their secret “formulas”, their magical strategies and their powerful tips, but nothing will happen for YOU if you do not have the intention to put these teachings and strategies into practice, customize them, and make them work for you!



I’ve been exposed to the “master principle” which I would like to share with you here – No matter where you are in your relationship right now, YOU create your own relationship reality.



And I’ve put it here as the Number One tip you have to master to make love and relationship work for you. In fact, if you master just this one principle, you’ll be able to master the rest and the light might just go on for you! Once you internalize this principle, everything else about relationships and dating will start to click.



This “master principle” is universally applicable to ALL aspects of your life and relationships - to your relationship, and to ANY other relationships, anywhere. I cannot emphasize enough how important just this one principle is. If you are wondering whether this will all work for you, I’m a living proof of using and applying this “master principle”. My most successful clients and customers are ALL people who have internalize this teaching and make the impossible possible – retrieving their lover/spouse/partner under the most difficult and adverse condition or circumstance or even attracting their true love!



If you think you are no good at meeting people, walking over to a man or woman, presenting friendly conversations and non-threatening body language, and engaging in a friendly and pleasant conversation with him, you know something? It is not that you are no good at this; but you have made yourself believe that you are no good at it! You think you are no good, so you are no good.



If you have a past relationship that has failed, or even failed a number of times for that matter, don’t let your past control your present and determine your future. This universe is full of abundance. It certainly does not have to remain true that you will not be able to attract and find your true love. This is up to YOU! YOU decide.



Whatever it is that is not going your way on the outside of you, be it any of your life or relationship circumstances or situations, check the inside! Always start from within you. Take the analogy of a tree with its roots buried deep within the ground. Can you visualize it? If the roots (the invisible) are not good; the visible parts of it will not be good too. Period. Remember this simple but profound truth, having tension on the inside of you guarantees resistance on the outside.



Conversely, relaxation inside will reduce resistance outside. Heighten your immunity to negative and discouraging influences of all kinds, both physical and mental, by learning to change your thinking, as and when it is necessary. Your thoughts are very powerful. The kind of thoughts you hold each and every single seconds coupled with your intense emotions WILL create for you YOUR reality.



Change your thoughts today. And you change your relationship and love reality.



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T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called
"The Magic Of Making Up". And it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.

Can I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

If you’re wondering, “Can I get my ex girlfriend back?” then the breakup probably wasn’t so devastating that you think the relationship can’t be saved. You’ll have to hope she feels the same way. If any hurt was caused during the split that you should apologize for, now’s the time to say you’re sorry. Being sorry and sincerely showing it is a good first step.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back by showing my sensitive side?

Well, there’s no guarantee you’ll get back together, but the odds tilt more and more in your favor when you do things right. Show her how much you miss her, and how sorry you are. Just pay attention to what she does. If your gestures of sorrow only make her angry—she throws away the roses or something dramatic like that, for example—change your tactics until you find that something she responds to.

If flowers or cards frustrate her, for example, maybe that’s because it’s easy to pick up the phone and order flowers or buy a card someone else wrote. Try putting yourself in her shoes and try to figure out something more appealing. Buy a blank card and write your own verse in it. It doesn’t have to rhyme, in fact it’s better if it doesn’t. Try to honestly express how you feel. Or pick flowers and present her with a bouquet you put together yourself.

A common complaint among women is that men aren’t thoughtful. Were you thoughtful during the relationship? Now you might be wondering, can I get my ex girlfriend back by being thoughtful? Not necessarily, but it’s one more step toward your goal of getting her back. Every positive thing stacks up, making it easier and easier for her to come back to you. Don’t expect things to happen right away, though.

If you spent your relationship rarely doing thoughtful things, or you only did them in the beginning, she’ll probably doubt the things you do now. Just be patient, and keep up your efforts. Don’t appear frustrated or angry. Do the thoughtful things because it feels good to make her happy, not because you’re working toward a goal.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back by dating other women?

If it’s been a long time since the breakup, and you’re still working on being thoughtful, a casual date seems harmless and may make her wish she was your date, but go too far and it could backfire.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back if she has a boyfriend?

The odds are against it, but if you can show her that she’ll be happier with you than the new boyfriend you’ll have a good chance. Being thoughtful will go a long way toward showing her that. Even if it seems hopeless, don’t give up.

If it appears she’s moved on, still send her a card you wrote just wishing her a great week. But don’t look as if you have any expectations. Your thoughtfulness might really impress her.

One other thing my friend, the points made above, are only just one step in the equation of getting your true love back. The important thing is to have a step by step plan that will lead you in your heartfelt pursuit.

Frankly, that's what I did when my true love dumped me. I followed a plan authored by T 'Dub' Jackson. When my cause was almost hopeless and I was dieing inside, it hauled me up by my bootstraps and helped me get my life's love back. It's called The Magic Of Making Up and you can Click Here! to check it out

How to Understand What Women are Thinking

Frankly, women can be REALLY puzzling.

Case in point, have you EVER thought any of the following:

• “Why won't she return my phone calls?”

• “Why did she agree to a date, but cancel at the last minute?”

• “Why does she flirt, but get annoyed when I make a move?”

• “Why does she complain about the guys she dates, but doesn't want a nice guy”

The actions of women can be extremely frustrating! It seems like they enjoy saying one thing then turning around doing the EXACT opposite.

And this is even more annoying when we think we're starting to finally understand them.

The other day my buddy Mike was complaining about a girl he recently met. From what he told me, she showed all the obvious signs of interest:

• SHE approached him

• SHE flirted and carried the conversation

• SHE insisted that they meet for a date

So what happened?

At the last minute she called up and canceled the date. After that, she wouldn't return Mike's phone call OR text messages.

Mike told me this story in the hopes that I had some advice on the matter.

And all I could do was shrug my shoulders and say...

“Women...who knows what goes on in their heads!”

I felt bad that I couldn't really give any advice to Mike. That's because I really felt he handled pretty well. Since she was showing obvious signs of interest, I was a little baffled as to why this girl flaked out.

Now I'll be the first to say that you never really know when a woman is going to something flaky. You could be having the best time with a woman! Then she'll turn around and do something completely BIZARRE!

So I ask the question- “What goes through the minds of women when they meet a guy?”

Well from what I've experienced, the MAJOR difference between the sexes really boils down to one thing:

How we view each situation

Typically a guy will use LOGIC in most areas. (ie: A girl is flirting with me. She must be interested!)

On the other hand, women use EMOTIONS to decipher a situation. (ie: He's interested, but does he really like me. Let's do a test to find out)

Yes, women are testing you.

And when I think about Mike's situation in hindsight, I realized that he didn't recognize a test at some point in their conversation.

My opinion is this girl was interested when she met him. But she tested Mike to see if he was the type of guy who challenges women...

AND he failed!

The truth is almost every woman you meet will probably do some form of a mind game to judge your reaction. They simply can’t help it.

They do this because of a specific emotional reaction they're trying to create in themselves or in YOU.

For instance if a woman is flirting without wanting to “hook up”, she's probably wants to feel sexy by having guys hit on her.

Or if a woman doesn't return your call, you didn't build up a serious emotional connection.

Or even better:

When a girl cancels your date, she's trying to create a situation where she's in the power position. In other words, this girl wants to see how much she can dominate your actions and turn you into the pursuer.

How can you stop this from happening?

Honestly, that's a hard one to answer. Some girls simply don't know what they want. Others only date guys who pass their tests. And a few simply like the feeling of having power over guys.

To prevent this from happening to YOU, it's important to do the following:

1) Understand what motivates the different women you meet

2) Identify the moments when they're testing you

3) IMMEDIATELY challenge a girl when she starts acting like a flake.

You really can't control the actions of women. But you can make them understand that you're the type of guy who doesn't deal with any bulls**t in your dating life.

The Art Of Approaching Women You'll find that directly challenging a woman is one of the best ways to avoid weird behavior AND make them do what you want!