The following is a true story...
The other day I was hanging out with my buddy Joe. During the course of the evening, we met a couple of attractive girls around where I live.
Things looked really promising...The one with me was really cute and the girl with Joe looked like she was really into him. In fact, she was sending ALL the signals of interest. All Joe had to do was make a move and she would be his!
So what happened?
Well, after spending about a half hour on the beach alone, Joe comes back with this girl who immediately tells her friend “We gotta go!”
Needless to say, this totally *interrupted* my night!
After the girls left, I asked Joe what happened. Here’s an almost word-for-word description of what he said:
“Dude, we were walking hand-in-hand on the beach. I wanted to make sure she was interested in me, so I pulled out my cell phone and showed pictures of my kitten back home. Then I started talking about how much I love animals...”
I was literally SPEECHLESS!
Here he was holding hand with an attractive girl ALONE on a beach and he starts talking about freakin’ kittens!!!
This girl was practically giving him the “Kiss Me” signal and Joe decides that he needs to still work on creating attraction. Furthermore, instead of doing something that could increase the sexual chemistry, he pulls out the “nice guy” routine and even takes a step into “creepy guy” territory.
Now you might be wondering: “What does this have to do with me?”
Well this story about my friend Joe left me wondering about all the little things that guys do which hurt their success with women. And as I discuss on my website, you NEVER fail because of your looks, or financial situation or age.
It all comes down to your attitude whenever you're around a woman.
Truth is Joe failed because he thought that the girl wanted a nice guy, even though she was already interested in the fun, awesome person that he normally is. In essence, she wanted the fun, flirty guy that’s naturally attractive to women. Joe failed because he second guessed his instincts and tried some lame gimmick.
When you’re around women, you don't have to do some elaborate routine just to impress her. In fact, all you have to do is know how to create the RIGHT kind of conversation.
I've found that a naturally attractive guy knows how to flirt. His conversation skills contain that perfect balance of fun versus seriousness. Furthermore this guy should be interested in a girl but not TOO interested.
To give you an example, here a few qualities of the attitudes that women WANT from a man:
1) He doesn't seem overly interested
2) He isn't afraid to tease and be a little playful
3) He acts like a gentleman, but is not a “Sugar Daddy”
4) He lives his life on his own terms
5) He takes bold action
These are just a FEW qualities of an attractive guy. The point I'm trying to make is you might be failing with women simply because you don't give women what they really want in the men they date.
In order to truly succeed with women, you have to embrace all the traits of a high status man. PLUS, you need to understand how to talk to women. This means flirting and creating that sexual chemistry that’s necessary for creating attraction.
So don’t be like my friend Joe. When you’re talking to an attractive girl, focus on establishing that fun, flirty vibe that can quickly attract her interest.
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Saturday, April 4, 2009
The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's Body Language
Remember the last time you saw that weird lookin’ dude with that pretty woman and you asked yourself “How?”
Ever wondered why the Top Boss or the Super Rich Ugly Guy has all the hot women around him? No, it’s not that she is crazy for his money or power. She genuinely likes him.
And if you doubting my words, think again. Think about the last time you were nervous. What vibe were you giving out? What did your body language say about you? Would women really want to be around a man with that kind of a body language?
Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on.
So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it... the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.
Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in.
With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):
1. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.
Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case--cliche). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.
But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!
So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are... toxic to your emotional state, and... let them go.
Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.
2. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.
When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.
3. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:
- Raising your shoulders.
- Wrinkling your forehead.
- Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
- Tightening your facial muscles.
4. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.
Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.
5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.
Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."
6. If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.
A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.
John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male"... a seduction success guide for men. Learn more advanced tips on how to develop the mind set and body language of an alpha male
Ever wondered why the Top Boss or the Super Rich Ugly Guy has all the hot women around him? No, it’s not that she is crazy for his money or power. She genuinely likes him.
And if you doubting my words, think again. Think about the last time you were nervous. What vibe were you giving out? What did your body language say about you? Would women really want to be around a man with that kind of a body language?
Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on.
So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it... the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.
Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in.
With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):
1. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.
Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case--cliche). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.
But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!
So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are... toxic to your emotional state, and... let them go.
Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.
2. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.
When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.
3. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:
- Raising your shoulders.
- Wrinkling your forehead.
- Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
- Tightening your facial muscles.
4. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.
Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.
5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.
Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."
6. If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.
A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.
John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male"... a seduction success guide for men. Learn more advanced tips on how to develop the mind set and body language of an alpha male
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Big Mistakes Men Make While Flirting and How to Avoid Them.
Let me ask you a question...
Have you ever met a girl you liked, and despite your best efforts, you got stuck in the "lets just be friends" category?
Do you ever wonder why this happens?
Chances are it is because you did not flirt correctly with the woman.
Since flirting is a vital element in the process of attraction and you do not do it correctly, or even worse, not at all, you may be leaving your opportunity to be with the woman up to chance.
What is the importance of flirting?
The answer is simple really; the process of flirting creates sexual tension.
When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.
You guessed it - A FRIEND!
Your attraction enhances when you know how to flirt with women properly.
Flirting is no big secret as many might consider, flirting is a lot of fun. Flirting does not work only if it is not done properly.
See, there's an art to flirting with a woman. Flirting is all about communicating your sexual interest in the girl, without coming right out and SAYING it.
These are mixed signals.
You communicate one thing yet your words say something very different.
Some of the most common mistakes men make while flirting with a woman include:
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Obvious
Some men find it overwhelming when they feel attraction to a woman and then spit it all out at once letting her know how they feel. This type of presentation of information places the woman at a disadvantage of deciding what she feels for the man.
Keep in mind, by not laying the groundwork properly beforehand, you risk the chance of finding rejection from the woman.
MISTAKE #2: Not Being Obvious Enough!
If you make no effort to communicate your interest, yet think the woman will just know what you feel, when you do make a move it surprises the woman, because up until that point she has no idea of your interest.
MISTAKE #3: They Rely On Words Instead Of Actions
Although, flirting includes what you say and the way you say it, the most powerful performance comes from your non-verbal body language. The small simple things like raising an eyebrow, tilting your head to one side and that wicked little grin, that carries the most meaning in a seemingly innocent remark.
MISTAKE #4: They Take Things Too Seriously
Flirting is a lighthearted and fun practice, it is when serious romantic gestures begin that causes the sexual tension to break down.
If you're not having fun when flirting - and more importantly, if the girl isn't having fun - then you are doing something WRONG.
Although, there are other mistakes, these few should give you some ideas. Would you like to learn the proper way to begin flirting?
Use as many sexual overtones as possible, this is a good way to flirt, however, you must keep it subtle.
Let us say you are at a bar, for example and the woman you are with orders a drink and then asks if you would like one as well, you can jokingly say to her, You aren't trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me, are you, while adding a nod and a wink.
Flirting communicates your attraction, although you never come right out and say it. Flirting is a lighthearted fun form of insinuation.
On the other hand, when a woman says something temptingly naughty to you, you might say to her, Stop trying to seduce me, you minx! You know I don't do that on the first date.
See how that works?
After you begin flirting more often, you will begin to be more apparent concerning your interests, without ever crossing that line.
While doing this, you begin to notice the attraction that is building between you and the woman. Before much longer, all that harmless flirting turns into outright seduction.
The real fun begins at this point.
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Have you ever met a girl you liked, and despite your best efforts, you got stuck in the "lets just be friends" category?
Do you ever wonder why this happens?
Chances are it is because you did not flirt correctly with the woman.
Since flirting is a vital element in the process of attraction and you do not do it correctly, or even worse, not at all, you may be leaving your opportunity to be with the woman up to chance.
What is the importance of flirting?
The answer is simple really; the process of flirting creates sexual tension.
When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.
You guessed it - A FRIEND!
Your attraction enhances when you know how to flirt with women properly.
Flirting is no big secret as many might consider, flirting is a lot of fun. Flirting does not work only if it is not done properly.
See, there's an art to flirting with a woman. Flirting is all about communicating your sexual interest in the girl, without coming right out and SAYING it.
These are mixed signals.
You communicate one thing yet your words say something very different.
Some of the most common mistakes men make while flirting with a woman include:
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Obvious
Some men find it overwhelming when they feel attraction to a woman and then spit it all out at once letting her know how they feel. This type of presentation of information places the woman at a disadvantage of deciding what she feels for the man.
Keep in mind, by not laying the groundwork properly beforehand, you risk the chance of finding rejection from the woman.
MISTAKE #2: Not Being Obvious Enough!
If you make no effort to communicate your interest, yet think the woman will just know what you feel, when you do make a move it surprises the woman, because up until that point she has no idea of your interest.
MISTAKE #3: They Rely On Words Instead Of Actions
Although, flirting includes what you say and the way you say it, the most powerful performance comes from your non-verbal body language. The small simple things like raising an eyebrow, tilting your head to one side and that wicked little grin, that carries the most meaning in a seemingly innocent remark.
MISTAKE #4: They Take Things Too Seriously
Flirting is a lighthearted and fun practice, it is when serious romantic gestures begin that causes the sexual tension to break down.
If you're not having fun when flirting - and more importantly, if the girl isn't having fun - then you are doing something WRONG.
Although, there are other mistakes, these few should give you some ideas. Would you like to learn the proper way to begin flirting?
Use as many sexual overtones as possible, this is a good way to flirt, however, you must keep it subtle.
Let us say you are at a bar, for example and the woman you are with orders a drink and then asks if you would like one as well, you can jokingly say to her, You aren't trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me, are you, while adding a nod and a wink.
Flirting communicates your attraction, although you never come right out and say it. Flirting is a lighthearted fun form of insinuation.
On the other hand, when a woman says something temptingly naughty to you, you might say to her, Stop trying to seduce me, you minx! You know I don't do that on the first date.
See how that works?
After you begin flirting more often, you will begin to be more apparent concerning your interests, without ever crossing that line.
While doing this, you begin to notice the attraction that is building between you and the woman. Before much longer, all that harmless flirting turns into outright seduction.
The real fun begins at this point.
To read more, please Click Here!
Attract Men / Women / Get Your Ex Back Products
The *Best* Online Dating And Facebook Pickup Guide On Cb! Period!
Black Belt Seduction.
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