The following is a true story...
The other day I was hanging out with my buddy Joe. During the course of the evening, we met a couple of attractive girls around where I live.
Things looked really promising...The one with me was really cute and the girl with Joe looked like she was really into him. In fact, she was sending ALL the signals of interest. All Joe had to do was make a move and she would be his!
So what happened?
Well, after spending about a half hour on the beach alone, Joe comes back with this girl who immediately tells her friend “We gotta go!”
Needless to say, this totally *interrupted* my night!
After the girls left, I asked Joe what happened. Here’s an almost word-for-word description of what he said:
“Dude, we were walking hand-in-hand on the beach. I wanted to make sure she was interested in me, so I pulled out my cell phone and showed pictures of my kitten back home. Then I started talking about how much I love animals...”
I was literally SPEECHLESS!
Here he was holding hand with an attractive girl ALONE on a beach and he starts talking about freakin’ kittens!!!
This girl was practically giving him the “Kiss Me” signal and Joe decides that he needs to still work on creating attraction. Furthermore, instead of doing something that could increase the sexual chemistry, he pulls out the “nice guy” routine and even takes a step into “creepy guy” territory.
Now you might be wondering: “What does this have to do with me?”
Well this story about my friend Joe left me wondering about all the little things that guys do which hurt their success with women. And as I discuss on my website, you NEVER fail because of your looks, or financial situation or age.
It all comes down to your attitude whenever you're around a woman.
Truth is Joe failed because he thought that the girl wanted a nice guy, even though she was already interested in the fun, awesome person that he normally is. In essence, she wanted the fun, flirty guy that’s naturally attractive to women. Joe failed because he second guessed his instincts and tried some lame gimmick.
When you’re around women, you don't have to do some elaborate routine just to impress her. In fact, all you have to do is know how to create the RIGHT kind of conversation.
I've found that a naturally attractive guy knows how to flirt. His conversation skills contain that perfect balance of fun versus seriousness. Furthermore this guy should be interested in a girl but not TOO interested.
To give you an example, here a few qualities of the attitudes that women WANT from a man:
1) He doesn't seem overly interested
2) He isn't afraid to tease and be a little playful
3) He acts like a gentleman, but is not a “Sugar Daddy”
4) He lives his life on his own terms
5) He takes bold action
These are just a FEW qualities of an attractive guy. The point I'm trying to make is you might be failing with women simply because you don't give women what they really want in the men they date.
In order to truly succeed with women, you have to embrace all the traits of a high status man. PLUS, you need to understand how to talk to women. This means flirting and creating that sexual chemistry that’s necessary for creating attraction.
So don’t be like my friend Joe. When you’re talking to an attractive girl, focus on establishing that fun, flirty vibe that can quickly attract her interest.
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Engage her into your conversation.
Some pick up lines are just terrible.
For example how often have you heard bad pick up lines such as:
"Did it hurt? When you fell from heaven, did it hurt?"
"Do I know you from somewhere?"
"Did you wash your pants with windex? Because I can see myself in them."
Let's face it - if you use lines like these on a girl, she's not going to give you the time of day.
But because the bad pick up lines get so much attention, people think ALL pick up lines are like this.
However, this is not correct.
A good pick up line will ACTUALLY help you pick up a woman.
The true point in using pick up lines is to begin a conversation.
That is all.
You can work your magic to do what you need to get a date with her, a phone number and an emotional connection, once she begins talking to you.
If you cannot begin a conversation, you can do little else.
Because you shouldn't just be talking to a girl. You should be ENGAGING the girl. Pulling her into a conversation with you is the only sure-fire way to further your agenda.
And guess what? A good pick up line will do that!
Do you know that when most men meet women they are at a loss for words to begin talking to a woman? They try to think of something off the top of their head, while often missing the opportunity of meeting a nice woman, before they can think of something to say.
It is essential to have at least a couple of good working pick up lines, especially for those times when you are nervous and cannot think of anything original that helps you take action.
Keep in mind that women are wise; never use these types of pick up lines, since they get you nowhere at all.
"Don't I know you from somewhere?"
This is lame pick up line and women know it, this is not a clever pick up line and makes you look bad.
Other unimpressive pick up lines include complimenting a woman on her clothing, asking for directions and telling her she looks like a movie star.
Why is this?
Because these things do not ENGAGE the girl. Once she responds, there is nothing to keep her in the conversation.
Avoid pick up lines that have yes and no answers. Good pick up lines get a woman to think about her reply, while inducing an emotional reaction, which encourages her to continue talking with you.
How can you engage a woman in conversation with you?
Easy, ask her opinion about some issue, since each woman has her own opinion, she likes to share with other, especially when it concerns relationships.
So to give you an example, you could say something like: "Hey, can I get your opinion on something real quick? Do you think it's wierd for a woman to try and get pregnant because she wants her baby to be born under a certain astrological sign? I really want to hear a woman's perspective on this."
Then follow up with a short story of how a woman may want her and her children's zodiac sign to be compatible, so they interact well together throughout their lives.
These various types of subjects for conversation can be about:
1. Relationships 2. Astrology 3. Marriage 4. Pregnancy 5. Children
The number of ways you can go with this are endless. Some of my favorite follow ups are:
"Do you believe in astrology?" (this can lead into discussions of fate and destiny)
"What is your zodiac sign?" (This can lead to talking about your sign compatibility - as a general rule, no matter what your sign is - you are compatible!)
"Do you like kids? You seem like the nurturing type."
I could go on and on, but you get the idea.
The design of a good pick up line engages a woman into deep and interesting conversations that provide you with an opportunity to get to know one another as you become familiar with each other.
To read more, Click Here!
For example how often have you heard bad pick up lines such as:
"Did it hurt? When you fell from heaven, did it hurt?"
"Do I know you from somewhere?"
"Did you wash your pants with windex? Because I can see myself in them."
Let's face it - if you use lines like these on a girl, she's not going to give you the time of day.
But because the bad pick up lines get so much attention, people think ALL pick up lines are like this.
However, this is not correct.
A good pick up line will ACTUALLY help you pick up a woman.
The true point in using pick up lines is to begin a conversation.
That is all.
You can work your magic to do what you need to get a date with her, a phone number and an emotional connection, once she begins talking to you.
If you cannot begin a conversation, you can do little else.
Because you shouldn't just be talking to a girl. You should be ENGAGING the girl. Pulling her into a conversation with you is the only sure-fire way to further your agenda.
And guess what? A good pick up line will do that!
Do you know that when most men meet women they are at a loss for words to begin talking to a woman? They try to think of something off the top of their head, while often missing the opportunity of meeting a nice woman, before they can think of something to say.
It is essential to have at least a couple of good working pick up lines, especially for those times when you are nervous and cannot think of anything original that helps you take action.
Keep in mind that women are wise; never use these types of pick up lines, since they get you nowhere at all.
"Don't I know you from somewhere?"
This is lame pick up line and women know it, this is not a clever pick up line and makes you look bad.
Other unimpressive pick up lines include complimenting a woman on her clothing, asking for directions and telling her she looks like a movie star.
Why is this?
Because these things do not ENGAGE the girl. Once she responds, there is nothing to keep her in the conversation.
Avoid pick up lines that have yes and no answers. Good pick up lines get a woman to think about her reply, while inducing an emotional reaction, which encourages her to continue talking with you.
How can you engage a woman in conversation with you?
Easy, ask her opinion about some issue, since each woman has her own opinion, she likes to share with other, especially when it concerns relationships.
So to give you an example, you could say something like: "Hey, can I get your opinion on something real quick? Do you think it's wierd for a woman to try and get pregnant because she wants her baby to be born under a certain astrological sign? I really want to hear a woman's perspective on this."
Then follow up with a short story of how a woman may want her and her children's zodiac sign to be compatible, so they interact well together throughout their lives.
These various types of subjects for conversation can be about:
1. Relationships 2. Astrology 3. Marriage 4. Pregnancy 5. Children
The number of ways you can go with this are endless. Some of my favorite follow ups are:
"Do you believe in astrology?" (this can lead into discussions of fate and destiny)
"What is your zodiac sign?" (This can lead to talking about your sign compatibility - as a general rule, no matter what your sign is - you are compatible!)
"Do you like kids? You seem like the nurturing type."
I could go on and on, but you get the idea.
The design of a good pick up line engages a woman into deep and interesting conversations that provide you with an opportunity to get to know one another as you become familiar with each other.
To read more, Click Here!
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