Frankly, women can be REALLY puzzling.
Case in point, have you EVER thought any of the following:
• “Why won't she return my phone calls?”
• “Why did she agree to a date, but cancel at the last minute?”
• “Why does she flirt, but get annoyed when I make a move?”
• “Why does she complain about the guys she dates, but doesn't want a nice guy”
The actions of women can be extremely frustrating! It seems like they enjoy saying one thing then turning around doing the EXACT opposite.
And this is even more annoying when we think we're starting to finally understand them.
The other day my buddy Mike was complaining about a girl he recently met. From what he told me, she showed all the obvious signs of interest:
• SHE approached him
• SHE flirted and carried the conversation
• SHE insisted that they meet for a date
So what happened?
At the last minute she called up and canceled the date. After that, she wouldn't return Mike's phone call OR text messages.
Mike told me this story in the hopes that I had some advice on the matter.
And all I could do was shrug my shoulders and say...
“Women...who knows what goes on in their heads!”
I felt bad that I couldn't really give any advice to Mike. That's because I really felt he handled pretty well. Since she was showing obvious signs of interest, I was a little baffled as to why this girl flaked out.
Now I'll be the first to say that you never really know when a woman is going to something flaky. You could be having the best time with a woman! Then she'll turn around and do something completely BIZARRE!
So I ask the question- “What goes through the minds of women when they meet a guy?”
Well from what I've experienced, the MAJOR difference between the sexes really boils down to one thing:
How we view each situation
Typically a guy will use LOGIC in most areas. (ie: A girl is flirting with me. She must be interested!)
On the other hand, women use EMOTIONS to decipher a situation. (ie: He's interested, but does he really like me. Let's do a test to find out)
Yes, women are testing you.
And when I think about Mike's situation in hindsight, I realized that he didn't recognize a test at some point in their conversation.
My opinion is this girl was interested when she met him. But she tested Mike to see if he was the type of guy who challenges women...
AND he failed!
The truth is almost every woman you meet will probably do some form of a mind game to judge your reaction. They simply can’t help it.
They do this because of a specific emotional reaction they're trying to create in themselves or in YOU.
For instance if a woman is flirting without wanting to “hook up”, she's probably wants to feel sexy by having guys hit on her.
Or if a woman doesn't return your call, you didn't build up a serious emotional connection.
Or even better:
When a girl cancels your date, she's trying to create a situation where she's in the power position. In other words, this girl wants to see how much she can dominate your actions and turn you into the pursuer.
How can you stop this from happening?
Honestly, that's a hard one to answer. Some girls simply don't know what they want. Others only date guys who pass their tests. And a few simply like the feeling of having power over guys.
To prevent this from happening to YOU, it's important to do the following:
1) Understand what motivates the different women you meet
2) Identify the moments when they're testing you
3) IMMEDIATELY challenge a girl when she starts acting like a flake.
You really can't control the actions of women. But you can make them understand that you're the type of guy who doesn't deal with any bulls**t in your dating life.
The Art Of Approaching Women You'll find that directly challenging a woman is one of the best ways to avoid weird behavior AND make them do what you want!
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Saturday, April 4, 2009
Why You Are Failing With Women
The following is a true story...
The other day I was hanging out with my buddy Joe. During the course of the evening, we met a couple of attractive girls around where I live.
Things looked really promising...The one with me was really cute and the girl with Joe looked like she was really into him. In fact, she was sending ALL the signals of interest. All Joe had to do was make a move and she would be his!
So what happened?
Well, after spending about a half hour on the beach alone, Joe comes back with this girl who immediately tells her friend “We gotta go!”
Needless to say, this totally *interrupted* my night!
After the girls left, I asked Joe what happened. Here’s an almost word-for-word description of what he said:
“Dude, we were walking hand-in-hand on the beach. I wanted to make sure she was interested in me, so I pulled out my cell phone and showed pictures of my kitten back home. Then I started talking about how much I love animals...”
I was literally SPEECHLESS!
Here he was holding hand with an attractive girl ALONE on a beach and he starts talking about freakin’ kittens!!!
This girl was practically giving him the “Kiss Me” signal and Joe decides that he needs to still work on creating attraction. Furthermore, instead of doing something that could increase the sexual chemistry, he pulls out the “nice guy” routine and even takes a step into “creepy guy” territory.
Now you might be wondering: “What does this have to do with me?”
Well this story about my friend Joe left me wondering about all the little things that guys do which hurt their success with women. And as I discuss on my website, you NEVER fail because of your looks, or financial situation or age.
It all comes down to your attitude whenever you're around a woman.
Truth is Joe failed because he thought that the girl wanted a nice guy, even though she was already interested in the fun, awesome person that he normally is. In essence, she wanted the fun, flirty guy that’s naturally attractive to women. Joe failed because he second guessed his instincts and tried some lame gimmick.
When you’re around women, you don't have to do some elaborate routine just to impress her. In fact, all you have to do is know how to create the RIGHT kind of conversation.
I've found that a naturally attractive guy knows how to flirt. His conversation skills contain that perfect balance of fun versus seriousness. Furthermore this guy should be interested in a girl but not TOO interested.
To give you an example, here a few qualities of the attitudes that women WANT from a man:
1) He doesn't seem overly interested
2) He isn't afraid to tease and be a little playful
3) He acts like a gentleman, but is not a “Sugar Daddy”
4) He lives his life on his own terms
5) He takes bold action
These are just a FEW qualities of an attractive guy. The point I'm trying to make is you might be failing with women simply because you don't give women what they really want in the men they date.
In order to truly succeed with women, you have to embrace all the traits of a high status man. PLUS, you need to understand how to talk to women. This means flirting and creating that sexual chemistry that’s necessary for creating attraction.
So don’t be like my friend Joe. When you’re talking to an attractive girl, focus on establishing that fun, flirty vibe that can quickly attract her interest.
The Art Of Approaching Women
The other day I was hanging out with my buddy Joe. During the course of the evening, we met a couple of attractive girls around where I live.
Things looked really promising...The one with me was really cute and the girl with Joe looked like she was really into him. In fact, she was sending ALL the signals of interest. All Joe had to do was make a move and she would be his!
So what happened?
Well, after spending about a half hour on the beach alone, Joe comes back with this girl who immediately tells her friend “We gotta go!”
Needless to say, this totally *interrupted* my night!
After the girls left, I asked Joe what happened. Here’s an almost word-for-word description of what he said:
“Dude, we were walking hand-in-hand on the beach. I wanted to make sure she was interested in me, so I pulled out my cell phone and showed pictures of my kitten back home. Then I started talking about how much I love animals...”
I was literally SPEECHLESS!
Here he was holding hand with an attractive girl ALONE on a beach and he starts talking about freakin’ kittens!!!
This girl was practically giving him the “Kiss Me” signal and Joe decides that he needs to still work on creating attraction. Furthermore, instead of doing something that could increase the sexual chemistry, he pulls out the “nice guy” routine and even takes a step into “creepy guy” territory.
Now you might be wondering: “What does this have to do with me?”
Well this story about my friend Joe left me wondering about all the little things that guys do which hurt their success with women. And as I discuss on my website, you NEVER fail because of your looks, or financial situation or age.
It all comes down to your attitude whenever you're around a woman.
Truth is Joe failed because he thought that the girl wanted a nice guy, even though she was already interested in the fun, awesome person that he normally is. In essence, she wanted the fun, flirty guy that’s naturally attractive to women. Joe failed because he second guessed his instincts and tried some lame gimmick.
When you’re around women, you don't have to do some elaborate routine just to impress her. In fact, all you have to do is know how to create the RIGHT kind of conversation.
I've found that a naturally attractive guy knows how to flirt. His conversation skills contain that perfect balance of fun versus seriousness. Furthermore this guy should be interested in a girl but not TOO interested.
To give you an example, here a few qualities of the attitudes that women WANT from a man:
1) He doesn't seem overly interested
2) He isn't afraid to tease and be a little playful
3) He acts like a gentleman, but is not a “Sugar Daddy”
4) He lives his life on his own terms
5) He takes bold action
These are just a FEW qualities of an attractive guy. The point I'm trying to make is you might be failing with women simply because you don't give women what they really want in the men they date.
In order to truly succeed with women, you have to embrace all the traits of a high status man. PLUS, you need to understand how to talk to women. This means flirting and creating that sexual chemistry that’s necessary for creating attraction.
So don’t be like my friend Joe. When you’re talking to an attractive girl, focus on establishing that fun, flirty vibe that can quickly attract her interest.
The Art Of Approaching Women
The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's Body Language
Remember the last time you saw that weird lookin’ dude with that pretty woman and you asked yourself “How?”
Ever wondered why the Top Boss or the Super Rich Ugly Guy has all the hot women around him? No, it’s not that she is crazy for his money or power. She genuinely likes him.
And if you doubting my words, think again. Think about the last time you were nervous. What vibe were you giving out? What did your body language say about you? Would women really want to be around a man with that kind of a body language?
Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on.
So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it... the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.
Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in.
With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):
1. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.
Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case--cliche). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.
But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!
So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are... toxic to your emotional state, and... let them go.
Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.
2. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.
When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.
3. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:
- Raising your shoulders.
- Wrinkling your forehead.
- Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
- Tightening your facial muscles.
4. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.
Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.
5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.
Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."
6. If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.
A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.
John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male"... a seduction success guide for men. Learn more advanced tips on how to develop the mind set and body language of an alpha male
Ever wondered why the Top Boss or the Super Rich Ugly Guy has all the hot women around him? No, it’s not that she is crazy for his money or power. She genuinely likes him.
And if you doubting my words, think again. Think about the last time you were nervous. What vibe were you giving out? What did your body language say about you? Would women really want to be around a man with that kind of a body language?
Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on.
So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it... the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.
Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in.
With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):
1. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.
Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case--cliche). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.
But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!
So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are... toxic to your emotional state, and... let them go.
Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.
2. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.
When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.
3. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:
- Raising your shoulders.
- Wrinkling your forehead.
- Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
- Tightening your facial muscles.
4. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.
Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.
5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.
Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."
6. If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.
A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.
John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male"... a seduction success guide for men. Learn more advanced tips on how to develop the mind set and body language of an alpha male
Thursday, April 2, 2009
How to Get Back Together with My Ex in 3 Steps
Have you just recently experienced a break up, and you are wondering "how can I get back together with my ex”? You may want to score your ex back immediately, and this is a common feeling that everyone experiences.
You can find yourself following into an emotionally depressed state, and you may find yourself wondering what to do. You may immediately feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this really going to make things better? Rather than make things better, what it is probably going to do is make your situation much worse, chasing your ex away even further.
What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex?"
Step 1 - How to get back with my ex: Accept the Break Up!
First and foremost, you need to accept that the break up is happening. Tell your ex that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin/. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Your ex will need time to think about the relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you.
Step 2 - How to get back with my ex: Do not contact your ex!
Do not make an effort to contact your ex anymore right now. You should cut communication off with him or her so that there can be some "thinking time". This may seem counter intuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.
This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how they feel about its value. It will also allow them to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your ex and can calm your nerves, that may be the best time to let them realize how important you were to them.
Step 3 - How to get back with my ex: Plan Ahead for the Get Together
Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning on when you should meet, where you should meet, and also what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together.
"How to get back with my ex?" Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. But they are a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back.
The Magic Of Making Up (Get Your Ex Back)
You can find yourself following into an emotionally depressed state, and you may find yourself wondering what to do. You may immediately feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this really going to make things better? Rather than make things better, what it is probably going to do is make your situation much worse, chasing your ex away even further.
What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex?"
Step 1 - How to get back with my ex: Accept the Break Up!
First and foremost, you need to accept that the break up is happening. Tell your ex that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin/. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Your ex will need time to think about the relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you.
Step 2 - How to get back with my ex: Do not contact your ex!
Do not make an effort to contact your ex anymore right now. You should cut communication off with him or her so that there can be some "thinking time". This may seem counter intuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.
This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how they feel about its value. It will also allow them to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your ex and can calm your nerves, that may be the best time to let them realize how important you were to them.
Step 3 - How to get back with my ex: Plan Ahead for the Get Together
Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning on when you should meet, where you should meet, and also what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together.
"How to get back with my ex?" Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. But they are a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back.
The Magic Of Making Up (Get Your Ex Back)
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Proven Dating Methods For Men
When you consider dating a woman, more than likely you consider dinner and a movie, right?
Going out and doing things with a woman while you get to know one another is dating.
Consider for a moment that this is a misconception about dating.
Most men understand dating a woman, as a concept for a sensual ulterior motive; however, this is not always the case.
Let's go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when "dating" a girl...
Mistake #1: Dates are only to make a good impression.
Often men might feel like they have something to prove while on a date, to get the woman to like them. They seem to think that taking a woman to some fancy and memorable place and bragging about their accomplishments makes them seem important.
Mistake #2: Buying your way into the heart of a woman.
This is not a good idea, since you cannot spend enough money on a woman to encourage them to keep dating you. The majority of women today could care less how much you might spend on a date with them.
Mistake #3: Activities Mean Nothing!
Going out and doing things with someone does not mean as much as you think it might. Simply going to on dates does not encourage a womans interest for you. You cannot create romantic interest by just spending time together.
Mistake #4: Men become boring!
A date with no spark of chemistry is boring. Although many men become nervous while on dates, they often interrupt themselves by becoming boring. They often talk about their routines while displaying little to none of their distinct personality. This is going through the motions with hopes of not messing things up.
Mistake #5: Following a pattern for failure.
Some men think dates should go a certain way, they have their own ideas of how things are suppose to turn out, they then follow the same strict pattern of failure. They always go to the same places, while asking their dates the same questions they have asked all the other women they have dated. There is no fun or natural impulses offered into their interactions.
What does it mean to go on dates with a woman?
The answer is simple; dating is a means of encouraging and building comfort, attraction and emotional connections.
It does not matter how much you spend or where you may go, what does matter is how you build your connection with a woman, while encouraging her feelings for you.
That is why so many guys can take a girl on a cheap date and sweep her off her feet, and other guys can drop thousands of dollars on really creative dates and get NOWHERE.
You should completely focus on how you can increase your emotional connection with the woman you date.
You should be open to talking about your shared passions and interests, while trying to figure out what her hopes and dreams may be.
Learn to rephrase your questions, rather than wanting to know where she works, ask her some interesting and fun questions, such as If you could do anything you wish, what would you wish to do?
Most importantly: HAVE FUN!
You might want to tell her a joke, even if it is not the best, just so you can both enjoy a good chuckle. Take care to guide the conversation towards the things she finds interesting, this helps you find out who she is. Be curious.
But most importantly, don't shy away from sex!
Although many men shy away from approaching the subject of relationships while on a date, you should build the intensity of attraction by building toward that.
Joke about sex. Flirt with her. Be a little wicked. Girls like this, and if you DON'T do it, you won't be able to build enough attraction to take things to the next level.
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Kissing 101: Your Essential Guide
Going out and doing things with a woman while you get to know one another is dating.
Consider for a moment that this is a misconception about dating.
Most men understand dating a woman, as a concept for a sensual ulterior motive; however, this is not always the case.
Let's go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when "dating" a girl...
Mistake #1: Dates are only to make a good impression.
Often men might feel like they have something to prove while on a date, to get the woman to like them. They seem to think that taking a woman to some fancy and memorable place and bragging about their accomplishments makes them seem important.
Mistake #2: Buying your way into the heart of a woman.
This is not a good idea, since you cannot spend enough money on a woman to encourage them to keep dating you. The majority of women today could care less how much you might spend on a date with them.
Mistake #3: Activities Mean Nothing!
Going out and doing things with someone does not mean as much as you think it might. Simply going to on dates does not encourage a womans interest for you. You cannot create romantic interest by just spending time together.
Mistake #4: Men become boring!
A date with no spark of chemistry is boring. Although many men become nervous while on dates, they often interrupt themselves by becoming boring. They often talk about their routines while displaying little to none of their distinct personality. This is going through the motions with hopes of not messing things up.
Mistake #5: Following a pattern for failure.
Some men think dates should go a certain way, they have their own ideas of how things are suppose to turn out, they then follow the same strict pattern of failure. They always go to the same places, while asking their dates the same questions they have asked all the other women they have dated. There is no fun or natural impulses offered into their interactions.
What does it mean to go on dates with a woman?
The answer is simple; dating is a means of encouraging and building comfort, attraction and emotional connections.
It does not matter how much you spend or where you may go, what does matter is how you build your connection with a woman, while encouraging her feelings for you.
That is why so many guys can take a girl on a cheap date and sweep her off her feet, and other guys can drop thousands of dollars on really creative dates and get NOWHERE.
You should completely focus on how you can increase your emotional connection with the woman you date.
You should be open to talking about your shared passions and interests, while trying to figure out what her hopes and dreams may be.
Learn to rephrase your questions, rather than wanting to know where she works, ask her some interesting and fun questions, such as If you could do anything you wish, what would you wish to do?
Most importantly: HAVE FUN!
You might want to tell her a joke, even if it is not the best, just so you can both enjoy a good chuckle. Take care to guide the conversation towards the things she finds interesting, this helps you find out who she is. Be curious.
But most importantly, don't shy away from sex!
Although many men shy away from approaching the subject of relationships while on a date, you should build the intensity of attraction by building toward that.
Joke about sex. Flirt with her. Be a little wicked. Girls like this, and if you DON'T do it, you won't be able to build enough attraction to take things to the next level.
To get you FREE E-book NOW, Click Here!
Improve Communication And Trust Within A Relationship
Kissing 101: Your Essential Guide
Can You Use The Infamous 'Poke' Button On Facebook To Pickup Chicks?
A lot of guys ask me… Can I poke a girl on Facebook to start a conversation? Here’s the short answer… NO!
Sure, it’s a cool little tool to use on your friends… but for picking up beautiful women you barely know or don’t know AT ALL on Facebook? Not a chance!
Poking a girl (or cyber hugging, kissing, etc.) is pretty much useless… I mean… beautiful girls probably get poked more than the Pillsbury Dough Boy on Facebook!
And just as often, they press the “remove” button to get rid of those annoying pokes from desperate guys. I saw one of my hot girlfriend’s Facebook account and my jaw dropped.
She literally had dozens and dozens of guys poking her on a regular basis. Her e-mail account was filled with notices of guys she didn’t know poking her.
“I don’t even have time to get rid of those!” she tells me… boy, was she annoyed!
Poking a girl isn’t unique or funny… nor does it convey any value or induce any amount of attraction.
Really… nothing beats a good, solid, well-thought first message that conveys a LOT of value without sounding too cocky or arrogant… and that COMPELS her to message you back.
Typically, especially on Facebook, this can be tough. At least girls on online dating websites ARE looking for guys…
But surprisingly, building rapport with a good-looking chick on Facebook is easier than you think!
There are a few key ingredients in a first message that you really need to have. Listen carefully, here… because the first message is probably going to the most important message... or definitely one of the most important.
One of the key ingredients that your first message needs to have is a strong purpose. No, telling a girl that you barely know on Facebook that she’s cute isn’t a STRONG purpose. It’s a rather weak one.
And no… asking her to “webcam” with you isn’t going to work, either! Too many guys do that. It’s way creepy if you haven’t figured that one out yet…
A strong purpose can range from a very intriguing open-ended question to a silly little remark regarding her profile picture. No, a question like “How are you?” just won’t cut it. That may work in real life if you convey strong body language, but online, it must be much deeper… more thoughtful.
You really need to know how to push her curiosity buttons. You need to make her WANT to message you back.
I mean, you can even make a sly little judgment about her… something like… “Hey, you look like you’re on Facebook ALL the time…”
This will make her want to message you back. She doesn’t want you thinking that she’s a computer nerd that has no life… so she’s going to be compelled to message you back and correct your initial perception of her.
Really, it’s quite a simple mechanism that you can exploit.
Oh yeah, and remember… spelling and grammar is always important.
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Sure, it’s a cool little tool to use on your friends… but for picking up beautiful women you barely know or don’t know AT ALL on Facebook? Not a chance!
Poking a girl (or cyber hugging, kissing, etc.) is pretty much useless… I mean… beautiful girls probably get poked more than the Pillsbury Dough Boy on Facebook!
And just as often, they press the “remove” button to get rid of those annoying pokes from desperate guys. I saw one of my hot girlfriend’s Facebook account and my jaw dropped.
She literally had dozens and dozens of guys poking her on a regular basis. Her e-mail account was filled with notices of guys she didn’t know poking her.
“I don’t even have time to get rid of those!” she tells me… boy, was she annoyed!
Poking a girl isn’t unique or funny… nor does it convey any value or induce any amount of attraction.
Really… nothing beats a good, solid, well-thought first message that conveys a LOT of value without sounding too cocky or arrogant… and that COMPELS her to message you back.
Typically, especially on Facebook, this can be tough. At least girls on online dating websites ARE looking for guys…
But surprisingly, building rapport with a good-looking chick on Facebook is easier than you think!
There are a few key ingredients in a first message that you really need to have. Listen carefully, here… because the first message is probably going to the most important message... or definitely one of the most important.
One of the key ingredients that your first message needs to have is a strong purpose. No, telling a girl that you barely know on Facebook that she’s cute isn’t a STRONG purpose. It’s a rather weak one.
And no… asking her to “webcam” with you isn’t going to work, either! Too many guys do that. It’s way creepy if you haven’t figured that one out yet…
A strong purpose can range from a very intriguing open-ended question to a silly little remark regarding her profile picture. No, a question like “How are you?” just won’t cut it. That may work in real life if you convey strong body language, but online, it must be much deeper… more thoughtful.
You really need to know how to push her curiosity buttons. You need to make her WANT to message you back.
I mean, you can even make a sly little judgment about her… something like… “Hey, you look like you’re on Facebook ALL the time…”
This will make her want to message you back. She doesn’t want you thinking that she’s a computer nerd that has no life… so she’s going to be compelled to message you back and correct your initial perception of her.
Really, it’s quite a simple mechanism that you can exploit.
Oh yeah, and remember… spelling and grammar is always important.
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Romantic Love and Those Three Little Words - How To Tell Him You Love Him
So you’ve met the man of your dreams. Your heart sings, your pulse races, you walk around all moony-eyed and have trouble thinking about anything but him. You want to tell him that you love him, and that you think that he’s The One, but you don’t want to seem clingy – or worse, scare him off.
We’ve all heard horror stories about one partner telling the other that they love them and then getting the “thanks, but no thanks” response.
Maybe you’ve experienced it yourself, adding to your fears. So how do you tell him that you love him without coming off like a creepy stalker?
1) Choose the right place and the right time.
Think hard about when and where you want to tell him. If you’re worried that he won’t respond with enthusiasm, it helps to be prepared. Maybe you’d like to tell him on the anniversary of when you met, or at the place you first kissed, or over dinner at your favorite restaurant. Set the stage for romance and he’ll respond more positively.
2) Make it romantic.
Candlelight and music work on men just as well as they work on women. Wear something that you know he likes to see you in, ply him with his favorite meal, and get him in a romantic mood.
3) Make sure you can back it up.
Before you blurt out “I love you,” tell him what you appreciate about him. Compliment him and tell him what it is about him that you really like. Tell him how wonderful he makes you feel when you’re together and why you value your relationship. Be sincere, and be specific. Let him know that you value him for the many things that make him unique and special.
4) Consider the type of person he is.
If he’s a fun-loving, casual type, setting up a full-scale romantic assault may actually make him feel more nervous than passionate. He might respond better if you slip “I love you” into a conversation over a picnic lunch, or while laughing at one of your favorite movies.
By the time you get to expressing your love, you should know him pretty well – so pick a time and a place that will be most comfortable for him.
5) Share it, don’t demand it.
You want to tell him how you feel, not blackmail him into saying it back. He may not be ready to say it yet, and if he feels pressured he’ll resent you for it. And no matter what you do, never blurt it out as part of an argument. Screeching, “But I love you!” isn’t romantic, it’s disturbing and selfish.
6) Take the coward’s way out.
If you can’t bring yourself to flat-out say “I love you,” try a less pressure-filled way of saying the same thing. “I love having your arms around me,” “I love how you look in that shirt” and “I really love the way your eyes twinkle when you smile” are smaller declarations and a good way to gauge his feelings.
7) Don’t say it while under the influence.
A glass of wine may give you the courage to say those three little words, but several glasses of wine will just make you sloppy and silly. Besides, think of the message you’re sending him if it looks like you had to get drunk to tell him you love him! Do it while sober, so both of you know that you mean exactly what you say.
8) Be prepared for the worst.
No matter how much you fantasize about him saying “I love you” back, Don’t place all your hopes on it. He may not be ready. Worse, he may not feel the same way about you. Saying “I love you” should be a gift from you to him, not a demand to reciprocate – and if you pin all your hopes on him responding in exactly the way you’ve imagined, you may very well be disappointed.
Have a back-up plan in place in case he doesn’t return your feelings – know in advance that you may end up crying into your pillow or sitting up late with a girlfriend grousing about your broken heart. If he says “I love you back,” that’s great. But if he doesn’t, it’ll go better fo you if you’ve already prepared yourself for that possibility.
Above all, remember that saying “I love you” doesn’t really change anything. While it may be the ending to every romantic movie, exchanging those words doesn’t mean happily ever after. It just means that you’re moving into a slightly different phase of your relationship – there’s still a lot to share with each other, and who knows what joys and challenges lie ahead?
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The Complete Retrieve A Lover Home Study Course Can Help You Bring
More Love, Understanding and Passion Into Your Relationship
and Personal Live Today. Discover How You Can Save Your
Relationship, Save Your Marriage, Stop Your Divorce and Stop Your
Break-ups today Without All The Fear And Heartache!
==> http://junio02.cpemo.hop.clickbank.net
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What Husbands Cant Resist
We’ve all heard horror stories about one partner telling the other that they love them and then getting the “thanks, but no thanks” response.
Maybe you’ve experienced it yourself, adding to your fears. So how do you tell him that you love him without coming off like a creepy stalker?
1) Choose the right place and the right time.
Think hard about when and where you want to tell him. If you’re worried that he won’t respond with enthusiasm, it helps to be prepared. Maybe you’d like to tell him on the anniversary of when you met, or at the place you first kissed, or over dinner at your favorite restaurant. Set the stage for romance and he’ll respond more positively.
2) Make it romantic.
Candlelight and music work on men just as well as they work on women. Wear something that you know he likes to see you in, ply him with his favorite meal, and get him in a romantic mood.
3) Make sure you can back it up.
Before you blurt out “I love you,” tell him what you appreciate about him. Compliment him and tell him what it is about him that you really like. Tell him how wonderful he makes you feel when you’re together and why you value your relationship. Be sincere, and be specific. Let him know that you value him for the many things that make him unique and special.
4) Consider the type of person he is.
If he’s a fun-loving, casual type, setting up a full-scale romantic assault may actually make him feel more nervous than passionate. He might respond better if you slip “I love you” into a conversation over a picnic lunch, or while laughing at one of your favorite movies.
By the time you get to expressing your love, you should know him pretty well – so pick a time and a place that will be most comfortable for him.
5) Share it, don’t demand it.
You want to tell him how you feel, not blackmail him into saying it back. He may not be ready to say it yet, and if he feels pressured he’ll resent you for it. And no matter what you do, never blurt it out as part of an argument. Screeching, “But I love you!” isn’t romantic, it’s disturbing and selfish.
6) Take the coward’s way out.
If you can’t bring yourself to flat-out say “I love you,” try a less pressure-filled way of saying the same thing. “I love having your arms around me,” “I love how you look in that shirt” and “I really love the way your eyes twinkle when you smile” are smaller declarations and a good way to gauge his feelings.
7) Don’t say it while under the influence.
A glass of wine may give you the courage to say those three little words, but several glasses of wine will just make you sloppy and silly. Besides, think of the message you’re sending him if it looks like you had to get drunk to tell him you love him! Do it while sober, so both of you know that you mean exactly what you say.
8) Be prepared for the worst.
No matter how much you fantasize about him saying “I love you” back, Don’t place all your hopes on it. He may not be ready. Worse, he may not feel the same way about you. Saying “I love you” should be a gift from you to him, not a demand to reciprocate – and if you pin all your hopes on him responding in exactly the way you’ve imagined, you may very well be disappointed.
Have a back-up plan in place in case he doesn’t return your feelings – know in advance that you may end up crying into your pillow or sitting up late with a girlfriend grousing about your broken heart. If he says “I love you back,” that’s great. But if he doesn’t, it’ll go better fo you if you’ve already prepared yourself for that possibility.
Above all, remember that saying “I love you” doesn’t really change anything. While it may be the ending to every romantic movie, exchanging those words doesn’t mean happily ever after. It just means that you’re moving into a slightly different phase of your relationship – there’s still a lot to share with each other, and who knows what joys and challenges lie ahead?
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=
The Complete Retrieve A Lover Home Study Course Can Help You Bring
More Love, Understanding and Passion Into Your Relationship
and Personal Live Today. Discover How You Can Save Your
Relationship, Save Your Marriage, Stop Your Divorce and Stop Your
Break-ups today Without All The Fear And Heartache!
==> http://junio02.cpemo.hop.clickbank.net
Save Your Marriage Today!
What Husbands Cant Resist
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